“The DILF (Dad I'd Like To Friend) Handbook replaces silence with language, and isolation with support, so new dads don't have to carry the hardest parts of early parenthood alone. Not because dads need to be rescued. Because they deserve support, too.”
— ForbesA Sanity-Saving Guide for New & Expectant Dads
We’ve partnered with top parenting podcast DILF (Dad I’d Like To… Friend) to create a trusted companion for your fatherhood journey
The DILF (Dad I’d Like To… Friend) Handbook:
A New Dad’s Guide to Overcoming the Most Common Myths of Parenthood
Beyond the comedic title, The DILF Handbook explores the parts of fatherhood no one warns you about. While most parenting books focus on your baby, this book focuses on YOU — offering tools to tackle the hidden struggles of modern fatherhood, from identity shifts to paternal burnout and social isolation. Written by DSD founder, Kevin Seldon, this vital resource is grounded in research, real stories & proven strategies, while shattering dangerous myths like:
- There’s No Room for Mistakes as a Parent
- You will Never Have Sex Again
- You Will Feel an Instant Bond with your Baby
NBC News Interview: The DILF (Dad I'd Like To Friend) Handbook
An Interview between Today Show's Joe Fryer and The DILF (Dad I'd Like To Friend) Handbook author & Dads Supporting Dads Founder, Kevin Seldon
How The DILF Handbook Debunks The Biggest Myths Of Fatherhood
Seldon doesn’t position this book as a replacement for classic parenting guides. He positions it as a missing layer, one that helps dads stay mentally well enough to show up. The DILF Handbook replaces silence with language, and isolation with support, so new dads don’t have to carry the hardest parts of early parenthood alone. Not because dads need to be rescued. Because they deserve support, too.
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Good Housekeeping lists The DILF Handbook as one of the best gifts for new dads
The transition to fatherhood can be a rough one, and it's harder when dads try to white-knuckle it on their own. Kevin Seldon, creator of the Dad I'd Like To… Friend podcast and founder of Dads Supporting Dads, tries to help new fathers feel less alone. The book is focused on dispelling the different myths told to us about parenthood, like the idea that bonding happens immediately.
Read Full Article“Seldon offers a fantastic resource for dads that want to be involved, caring, full-hearted parents. The DILF Handbook is necessary reading for once and future fathers and all men who care.”
Gary Barker
Dad + CEO, Equimundo
“I truly wish I had this resource when I first became a dad. It speaks directly to the feelings of burnout, isolation and uncertainty I carried early on, even though I didn’t yet have the words to describe it. I can not recommend this book enough — no matter what stage of fatherhood you’re in.”
Nicholas I.
Dad + Co-Organizer, Orlando Dads Group
“Working with new dads, I’m always looking for resources that tell the messy, humbling, and rewarding truth about fatherhood, especially for men who feel sidelined or uncertain in this new role. This book does exactly that, debunking parenting myths with honest narrative and research-backed guidance. It equips dads for the real, relational work of fathering.”
Jett Stone, PhD
Dad + Licensed Clinical Psychologist
“The DILF Handbook is a thoughtful companion for modern dads, cutting through outdated myths and offering real support. With honesty and practical tools, it empowers fathers to build stronger partnerships, and embrace parenting with confidence and joy. “
Ted Bunch
Dad + Co_founder, A Call To Men
“As a psychologist specializing in families and perinatal mental health, I found The DILF Handbook to be a vital and timely contribution to the parenting literature. Seldon offers a deeply informed and accessible guide that destigmatizes paternal vulnerability and expands our understanding of what emotionally attuned parenting can look like. Grounded in empathy and evidence, this book highlights how supporting fathers’ mental health strengthens the entire family system.”
Erin O'Connor, Ed.D.
Mom + Professor, Early Childhood, NYU Steinhardt
“Seldon offers many great pieces of practical parenting advice made simple. A wonderful reminder that we are not alone as dads, and if we take a few moments to pause and focus our energy, we can find a path together with our parenting partner!”
Ben Mills
Dad + Co-Organizer, Phoenix Dads Group
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